Positive parenting tips: TEARLESS DROP-OFFS AND PICK-UPS

Slow down. Being in a hurry creates tension that children can sense. Stressful situations make fertile ground for tears and tantrums.

  • Have your children help you get ready the night before.
  • If your child misses you, give them something of yours they can put in their pocket to help them remember you.
  • Avoid over drawn out, over-comforting good-byes. Be confident that your child will be fine. Create a fun routine instead.
  • Before you arrive to pick up your child, put yourself “in the mood” – clear your mind of work, chores, dinner so that you can be totally available to your child. Take three deep relaxing breaths as you walk in the door.
  • Make sure your face lights up when you see your child. Take a moment to give your child undivided attention before you leave.

Try saying:

“I’ll walk you in, you put up your backpack, I’ll give you a hug and kiss, then a high five, and I leave.”

“I know you are going to have a lot of fun here even if you miss me a bit.”

“It’s so great to see you!”

From Kath Kvols, www.redirecting childrensbehavior.com